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How to Stay Focused and Inspired in Tough Times / Robin Sharma

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“No pessimist ever discovered the secrets of the stars or sailed to an uncharted land or opened up a new heaven to the human spirit,” observed Helen Keller. In this change-crazed world we live in, a healthy dose of optimism will help us deal with life’s daily challenges and stay inspired in the face of difficulties. But the habit of positive thinking is not enough. To truly thrive on the inevitable obstacles that will appear on your path, you must learn specific strategies for managing setbacks and transforming your struggles into strengths. The following 5 points will keep you motivated, inspired and focused as you deal with adversity:

1. Search for the Opportunity. The great motivational thinker Napoleon Hill once said that every difficulty contains the seed of an equivalent opportunity. The person of true character has the courage to find it and then seize it in order to move on to a whole new level of success. Problems are a part of life. The only people on the planet who are problem-free are resting six feet under the ground. When faced with an apparent failure or rejection, ask yourself the simple question: “what can I learn from this?” Then use the experience to grow more effective at what you do. Remember, failure is the highway to success. As J.P. Guildford noted: “To live is to have problems and to solve problems is to grow intellectually.”

2. Envision a Better Day. One of the most powerful ways to stay focused and strong in the face of a setback is to simply close your eyes and picture a time when things will be much better. Visualize things going the way you want them to go. Vividly see things unfolding ideally and emotionally connect to how good you will feel once they do. Jonas Salk said: “I’ve had dreams and I’ve had nightmares. I’ve overcome my nightmares because of my dreams.” By staying anchored to a positive vision of your future, you will remain motivated no matter how tough your current circumstances may be.

3. Connect to the Truth. There are certain “Success Truths” or natural laws of achievement that have endured throughout the ages. Unfortunately, with the frenzied pace at which most of us work and live at, we often lose sight of these truths that have stood the test of time, truths such as “just before a great victory one often faces great adversity” or “we learn and grow most from our biggest failures” or “nothing can stop a person who simply refuses to be stopped.” The simply daily discipline of reading an inspirational book or a great text of wisdom from a life philosopher such as Seneca or Thoreau first thing in the morning will reconnect you to the success truths that govern the way we live. Their knowledge will then infuse and inspire every remaining minute of your day and your problems will not seem so big.

4. Select, Reflect and Correct. Reflection is one of the most powerful yet underused business skills. The French scientist Blaise Pascal mused that “All man’s miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone.” The habit of going to a quiet place on a regular basis and reflecting on the causes, solutions and ultimate benefits of a problem you might be experiencing is one that will profoundly improve the level of your personal and professional effectiveness. Thinking deeply about the way you are doing the things you do increases self-awareness which, in turn, prevents future mistakes. Let your past failures serve you. Transform your stumbling blocks into stepping stones. Unless you reflect – then correct – the mistakes of your past, you are doomed to repeat them.

5. Maintain Your Perspective. Stephen Hawking, one of the world’s greatest scientific thinkers, has noted that we live on a minor planet of a very average star located within the outer limits of one of a hundred thousand million galaxies. In light of this finding, can your problems really be that significant? While, in the heat of the moment our challenges seem to be major calamities, over time we are able to see them in a new light. All top performers have developed this ability of keeping their setbacks in a proper perspective, learning from them and then advancing confidently in the direction of their dreams. Never lose sight of the fact that the work you and your team is doing impacts on people’s lives and you can make a difference. That’s what’s most important. As the poet Rumi once said: “When you are dead, seek for your resting place, not in the earth, but in the hearts of men.” Wise words from a wise man.
About Robin Sharma:

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Robin is one of the world’s top leadership experts and the author of 10 International bestsellers on Leadership and personal success. He is the CEO of Sharma Leadership International Inc. (SLI), a global learning firm focused on helping people Lead Without Title. Robin holds 2 law degrees including a Masters of Law. His work has helped millions of people in over 50 countries show leadership in their work and personal lives. SLI clients include many of the best known organizations including FedEx, GE, BP, IBM, Castrol, Unilever, Microsoft, Yale University and NASA.

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# 1 Fear – Public Speaking
March 22, 2009, 8:33 am
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indigo2Few weeks ago I spoke to my friend Isaac about fears during our daily walk. He mention that the number one fear is Public speaking. I couldn’t believe it and he was almost sure that he read it in the “Time Magazine”. I asked him to find more evidence to this finding since I thought that fear of death is number one and that, at least, the fear of the dentist is stronger than public speaking. . .

During the following week, I spoke to some of my friend that confirmed they are more afraid of public speaking then death because they don’t know enough about death but they had many experiences at nursery /school / university / parties when they had to speak in front of others and they shared with me that this is their number one fear. Some of them shared that they feel shame, some are depending on what other people think of them, for others it is related to their look and few think that they have nothing to say in public.

When Robin Sharma arrived to Israel few days later as our guest, he mention the same phenomena in his keynote and I remembered that I used to feel uncomfortable with public speaking 10 year ago, though I had a brilliant coach Barry Katz who worked with me to improve my skills and enjoy public speaking. I believe that confronting a fear is going out of our comfort zone and improve the leadership in our own life.

Isaac came back to me with some referrals to the phenomena:

• Fear of Public speaking is said to be the Number One Fear reported in surveys of American adults, topping such fears as the fear of flying, financial problems, sickness, and even death!, Americans said that their number one fear was public speaking, and that the fear of death was number five.

• According to The Book of Lists (contains hundreds of lists on unusual or esoteric topics), the fear of public speaking ranks number one in the minds of the majority of people. Far above the fear of death and disease, comes the fear of standing in front of a crowd. We all want to be movie stars, but are terrified of the spotlight. I have some opinions about why this happens, to be covered in a future article.

Public Speaking – A Greater Fear Than Death? By Peter Fisher Platinum Quality AuthorPeter Fisher is a Career Coach and Director of Career Consulting Limited. A webmaster for over 20 Personal Development and Careers Websites ranging from Your-Career-Change.com . According to studies, public speaking is a bigger fear than death. Fear of public speaking is reported to be the number one fear of American adults, with many people experiencing tremendous suffering because of it. The fear of public speaking is the most common phobia that has ever been diagnosed and while this does not mean people would rather be dead than speak in public, as some authors would like you to believe, it does illustrate why communication of ideas through public speaking is often avoided by professionals. Yet quite simply, one of the most powerful sources of confidence in your public speaking ability is knowing that you are prepared.

Fear of Public Speaking by Hildy Gottlieb Copyright ReSolve, Inc. 2004©
Some studies have shown that fear of public speaking ranks up there with the fear of death. That doesn’t surprise me. Although I am now about as comfortable with a microphone and an audience as I am in my own living room, that wasn’t always true. To be honest, until only a few years ago, I was petrified to talk in front of any sized group.

Fear of public speaking is easily one of the most common and debilitating fears that there is. Many people place fear of public speaking in the same category that they do life-threatening situations. So if getting up in front of people is something that scares you silly, you aren’t alone. Fear of public speaking is rated the number one fear with death actually coming in at number four.

Dealing with our fears, dancing with them and overcoming challenges could lead us to better life and opportunities to grow to our full potential and I believe that everyone deserve this chance.

Lets end with a quote from Jerry Seinfeld: “According to most studies, people’s number one fear is public speaking. Number two is death. Death is number two? Does that seem right? To the average person that means that if they have to go to a funeral, they’d be better off in the casket than giving the eulogy.”

I will be happy if you share your thoughts about public speaking as the #1 Fear,

Doron Libshtein
CEO, Coaching Interactive Limited
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Opportunities Are Now Here
March 18, 2009, 12:26 pm
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greenAs I get ready for an important board meeting today, I realize that now people tend to be more conservative. We realize that the economy has changed and that there’s less and less room for optimism. It’s better to be on the safe side and communicate the fears to the public and share holders or the downside of the business rather than the upside.

As a chairman, my role is to mentor the CEO, to lead the strategy and manage the board meetings and decision on short, medium and long term view of the business but in today’s world I find board members trying to help the firm survive these hard times instead of looking for opportunities to grow. We all know that “opportunities are nowhere” is written with the same letters but with different spaces as “opportunities are now here“, and I think that it is the time to show leadership and spread some optimism, so that good businesses will grow and that the economy today, like a burnt piece of timber, would act as the ground for future soil / businesses to grow faster.

Doron Libshtein
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